Did you know that you are allowed to change your mind?
Yes. It’s true … we have been told “You make your bed, you’ve gotta lie in it!” and “You get what you get and you don’t complain!” …
Well it turns out … that’s a whole lotta B.S!!
Yep! I have been struggling with a decision that mentally seemed like the right way to go.
I thought I wanted to scale up my business and GO BIGGER!
But the whole time I was doing the course and creating my new scaled-up service … I was feeling … not quite right.
Do you know that feeling?
That … “I’m not sure I can put my finger on it … but something is not right, (Madeline)”
*If you’ve read the Madeline books you will understand that. Grin.
Anyway, the point is, I was “pushing through” and “trying to stay positive” and making excuses for the things that weren’t resonating with me.
There were some red flags … I admit it … that I didn’t fully address.
The filming module was messy and I had 3 or 4 issues that came up.
I pushed through.
The content from the mentor was very comprehensive … months worth of work to do.
But it was only supposed to be an 8 week course … wasn’t it?
I pushed through.
The delivery of the course was delayed … ahh well life happens.
I pushed through.
But still …. always … in the back of my mind, in the pit of my stomach, in my heart …
I didn’t feel like it was working.
And then I had a conversation with a trusted friend and coach …
And she said “I can see you’re pissed off and getting anxious. Maybe it’s time to stop this course and do something else. It’s taking up so much of your energy. You haven’t had time to write blogs, do marketing, or put yourself out on social media properly for a few months.”
And she was right.
I knew all this.
I teach people to be aware of these signs.
I was ignoring my intuition.
I was overriding my feelings because I thought I “should” finish the course.
But it was not what I actually wanted to do.
So, last night, I withdrew from the course and stopped.
And at the time I felt lighter and calmer.
However, today I am feeling guilt and disappointment … which is perfectly understandable.
And I am working on being kind to myself, writing about it, doing tapping, affirmations and meditation.
It’s safe for me to say yes and then say no.
It’s safe for me to change my mind.
It’s safe for me to speak my truth.
It’s safe for me to say what I want.
It was an important action to take to honour my true feelings.
I am not responsible for anyone else’s reactions.
The truth is that I was excited to start the course in November 2021.
It seemed like the answer to my concerns at the time.
And now things have changed.
So, I encourage you to think about where you are not changing your mind, because you think you can’t.
Where are you “pushing through”?
Where are you struggling to finish and knowing that it’s time to stop?
It’s important for me to be transparent with you … because that’s how we trust each other.
I can’t be a good coach if I’m not willing to share the challenges too.
Please share your thoughts below … I’d love to hear what’s coming up for you.
Blessings Pip
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